‘Ditch the 11am Latte’, the headline said in a magazine that I caught sight of this morning.
Co-incidentally, it was around 11am, it was very cold and I was outside a cafe when I saw this headline. Why should I pay any attention to what a magazine tells me to do or not to do? Why shouldn’t someone have a Latte at 11am (or any other time!) if they want one, ffs? I went into the cafe and had a soya latte. It was rich and creamy and hot and just what I needed on a very cold January morning.
And that, in a nutshell, is the difference between my reactions before and after Beyond Chocolate.
Before I found Beyond Chocolate I was like a ball on a pin-ball machine, pinging from one diet to the next, from one exhortation about my diet and fitness to the next (often contradictory) one. I have no idea how often I told my long-suffering partner that THIS eating programme (or life-style change or detox or diet etc) was THE ONE! This time we would be eating like this forever because it was THE ONE! We would henceforth be lean, fit, strong, fat-free and happy for the rest of our lives.
Sometimes we achieved one of those – sometimes we lost weight, but I was never happy because it always involved sacrificing foods that I enjoyed eating. And whatever eating programme I had adopted on our behalfs never lasted and we would inevitably lapse and put the weight back on that we’d lost because, in reality, it just wasn’t possible to live like this or eat like this forever. And so I’d search desperately for the next one that WOULD work and WOULD last for the rest of our lives …
Until, one day, I came across Beyond Chocolate.
It was like the world had come back into focus. I now knew why the diets didn’t work. They didn’t work because they were imposing rules on me from outside my life and which didn’t fit in with how I live. Beyond Chocolate offers me a set of principles which I can adapt to fit into my life-style and with how I want to live and eat.
I didn’t announce Beyond Chocolate to my partner. I just quietly started working on the principles and gently corrected any diet-based ideas that he had grasped over the 25 years I’d been imposing diet rules on him. Instead, I introduced him to some behaviours which would help both of us. I knew I was getting somewhere when he appeared with a bowl of Maltesers one evening and I found the rest of them still in their box – he’d taken as much as he thought he might want and had left the rest. I knew I was getting somewhere myself when I met a friend for lunch and realised that I was completely satisfied with the meal I’d had and didn’t want dessert, even though they had lots of sticky, creamy options.
So, back to this morning and my apparently rebellious Latte. You see, it wasn’t really rebellious …
I didn’t have the Latte just because I’d been told to ditch it by a magazine.
I didn’t have the Latte just because I’m not on a diet.
I didn’t even have the Latte because Beyond Chocolate tells me I can if I want to.
I had the Latte because I Tuned In and it was just what I wanted at that moment, in that place … and I sat down and focused on it and enjoyed it.
So – I guess what I’m saying is; don’t pay any attention to what magazines say – Be Your Own Guru – if you need a Latte at 11am, have one. If you don’t, then don’t. It doesn’t have to be the same rule for the same time every day. In fact, there don’t have to be rules at all. Each day is different and, with Beyond Chocolate, every day can bring different eating experiences and each one is individually tailored to fit in with our individual life-style. That’s Tasting the Freedom!