It’s been one of those weekends!
Although my weekend itself was fine, I seem to have been bombarded from all sides by ‘evangelical dieters’.
I suppose it’s that time of the year when every magazine you see on the shelf is announcing yet ANOTHER regime to get a ‘bikini body’. (I much prefer the route 1. You have a body. 2. Take a bikini.3. Put on body– you now have a bikini body.)
It seems everyone is talking about the latest craze – 5:2 Fast Diet or Patsy Kensit popping up to tell us all about how she’ll ‘never have to go on another diet’ (apparently Weightwatchers also makes you clairvoyant) or the one I have just seen in today’s newspaper – the 8 hour diet. And if it’s not the press, it’s people announcing to everyone on Facebook how much weight they have lost this week, or how many steps they have walked or how their clothes no longer fit…yawn…Sorry,nearly made myself drop off there. It’s BORING!
So, what am I feeling about all this? I examined my feelings and came up with the following:
1. It’s BORING!!! People really don’t want to hear about every morsel of food that passes your lips or the fact that you went for a stroll instead of getting the bus. In the words of Nike – Just do it!! What are they telling us for? So that we can say how good they are? To make us jealous that they have such willpower and determination? To keep themselves on the straight and narrow? If you want to go to a slimming class – fine – that is your choice, we are all grown ups, but I really don’t care how many points is in that soup or how many calories you have burned walking to the bus stop.
2. Am I jealous? Hmm..well that was one thing that did cross my mind. Answer – maybe a little, perhaps that’s why I am so grumpy at being bombarded. The gremlin in my head was being a little bitchy: ‘ you know it doesn’t matter how much weight they have lost, you know it will go back on again’.
One thing that did dawn on me is that when people are losing weight, they only ever talk about the loss- not the maintain or the gain. They don’t announce to the masses on Facebook that this week they have ‘put on a pound’ or that they vegged out on the settee with a family size bar of Galaxy. Once they are in the diet tribe only successes must be mentioned. I am not talking about ‘closed groups’ on Facebook that are very helpful for sounding off (as I did about this very subject before writing!) I am talking about generally posting to everyone.
3.Why do I care? Again, I have made my choice – I decided to never diet again because it’s diets that have caused me to be overweight in the first place, but getting that message across to others is still a tough battle. If you say you don’t diet, people can still see that you are overweight and you can feel the judgement. ‘But you SHOULD diet – look at you’. So then I feel that I have to justify myself. I don’t, but I find myself telling people that before I started dieting 26 years ago, I was a size 12/14 and couldn’t tell you what I weighed. At my biggest, after years of yo-yoing I was a size 26/28 and its only by stopping dieting that my body has now settled at a size 18.
But there is still a long way to go – people can’t see that dieting just doesn’t work in the long term. They are always looking for that miracle, that this time it will be different. I have to have the courage of my own convictions about how I live my life now.
4.Don’t bottle it up. Say that I am bored about hearing about the latest fad diet. Smile sweetly at the diet tribe at work and walk away, or work with headphones in when I can to block it out. Talk to people who feel the same (Thank You BCers on the forum and Facebook for letting me rant when I need to!)
5.Get some balance. Today I re-read some of Beyond Temptation on my kindle at lunchtime and ordered a new book on Mindful Eating. And then I fired off an email to my local newspaper to tell them about Sophie and Audrey and the wonderful work they do and the workshop that is coming to our town later this year.
I can get quite evangelical myself.